reality check

A baby isn't a bargaining chip. A baby is a very small, but very whole, person. Just like me, just like you. And a child deserves to be considered as a whole, actual person, not as an object to possibly get you what you want for yourself. What I hear you saying is that you are now feeling a very...

He may be older but he's not wiser, and he's not acting like a grownup. He doesn't want to grow up, which is part of why he's dating people he perceives as not grownup themselves. He also doesn't have the bad stuff that happens to you because of him happen to him to make him want to change: if he was in your shoes, he'd ditch him in a heartbeat.

I'd like to focus this on the three primary issues you brought up here: your need for basic physical affection, your problem with upholding your own boundaries, and your ideas about how without intercourse, the sex you or anyone else are having cannot possibly satisfy either of you. On all of those...

(Anonymous' question continued) Especially, when I consider anal sex because, well, why would they want to do that, other than increase their own pleasure. The problem is, I actually enjoy anal, I just... these days, I hate the idea of letting anyone have it. So, basically I'm being ridiculously...

If you want to have any kind of sex with another woman, even together, than it's not honest to say you don't want another woman. You obviously do, in this way. As well, another partner is a person: not a sex toy, not an object, not some new "thing." So, for everyone's sake -- particularly for that...

(Andi's question continued) I've googled the internet for explanations. I guess I'm trying to prove to him and myself that this is just a phase he's going through. I really want to believe he is actually not gay, just curious about different sexual orientations. Can I be right, because he never had...

Let me start by just filling you in on some realities of rape. Most rapes do not occur with strangers unknown to the people they rape. They occur with people known to a victim: a friend, a neighbor, a spouse, a boyfriend or girlfriend, a family member. Stranger rape only accounts for around 25% of...

(Emily's question continued) Anyway, I keep thinking about being pregnant, wanting a baby and hoping and hoping I get pregnant. I hate thinking this way, because we aren't really ready for that yet, but I can't stop. Is there really any reason I would have this motherly urge? We always have...

Oh sweetie! Let's break this down and deal with one issue at a time here to see if we can't work this all out, shall we? First off, let's talk about this labia issue. How many real life labia (other than your own) have you seen up close and personal? I'm going to guess you probably haven't seen very...

There are two colloquialisms for what you're asking about. When a person has a penis that looks about the same size flaccid (soft) that it does erect, folks colloquially call that person a "shower," because their penis shows itself to be pretty much the same as it is erect. When a person has a penis...