reality check

(Eoin's questions continued...) 1) Abstinence-until-marriage is not superior (this will also come up later with respect to "the parents" and other concerns with my girlfriend); is it such a big deal if I have sex with my girlfriend tomorrow, in a couple months, or several years from now, including...

You know, there are good reasons why we distinguish fantasy from reality. If your boyfriend not only expects that both of you CAN do everything he sees in pornography, but also that you will both -- and not just because one of you does -- even WANT to, then he needs a reality check. You don't need...

Phew! This is a lot of information -- and that's helpful -- but there is also a lot to address in here. I'm seeing an awful lot of unrealistic expectations, from you and from your girlfriend, so I'd like to speak to those. Unrealistic expectations about sex really can make the sex we're having be a...

If we're going to think of our genitals as big, any one of us, given the small range between them, we should think everyone's genitals are big. We also need to accept that it's ignorant or misinformed to think, presume or suggest that penises are big but vaginas are small, because we really are all about the same size. If thinking big is better for one sex, it's also got to be better for the other. So, if you or someone else is going to go on about some big penis, you'd best get just as excited about the idea of a big vagina, and make having a big ol'Vagowski just as cool. And if you're all hung up on the idea that the vagina be as small as it can possibly be, or is such a small thing, then you've got to accept that penises are small, too.

Here's the thing: when a person with a vagina is sexually aroused, in general, yheir vagina self-lubricates (becomes more wet), their clitoris and parts of the vulva become more erect, and the vaginal opening and vaginal canal relax and expand (become looser). So, to ask to be wet AND "tight" is a...

Twenty-three inches, ehh? I wear jeans with a 29 inch inseam. I have a pair of capris (aka clam diggers, pedal pushers, etc.) that have a 20 inch inseam. Gosh, imagine how you'd wear pants with a penis that was 23 inches long! What I'm saying is, there are a lot of rumors and urban legends. A twenty...

Actually, you sound perfectly normal. Contrary to what we are encouraged to believe by various media, porn, and certain plastic surgeons, labia normally come in all shapes, sizes, and colors. There are any number of completely normal variations. Labia can be large or small. They can be pink, reddish...

The majority of pregnancies that occur for adolescents are unplanned. But some pregnancies in the teen years -- around one in five -- are intended. Teen pregnancy and parenting are hard, so if you're thinking about trying to make it happen, here's some food for thought.