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• Start with the search function, right here. Enter your query, like, "pain with sex⁠ (sex: Different things people choose to do to actively express or enact sexuality and sexual feelings; often this involves genitals, but not always. ) ," or " penis⁠ (penis: One of the two external reproductive organs of people often assigned male at birth.) size" or "bumps on vulva⁠ (vulva: The name for the external genitals of people assigned female at birth. The vulva includes the mons, external clitoris, inner and outer labia, fourchette and perineum.) " or " relationship⁠ (relationship: An ongoing interaction or association with another person, place or thing.) troubles," and click the button that says "search." You will be given a list of articles, advice answers, blog entries and other resources on the site specific to your topic. Hint: there is a search box on the lower left hand corner of every page.
• You can also try using our page of tags here, which lists words and phrases we have tagged pieces with because they are about or address a given topic. Hint: there is a small box of our most popular tags on the left sidebar of every page.
• Start with our article indexes, which you can access with that big blue navigation box on the top⁠ (top: In sexuality, this is someone who wants to take the/a lead during sex with a partner or partners, or to consensually take the role of being in charge of sexual actions.) right corner of every page. Yep, that blue box up there.

Looking for an answer but coming up with nothing?

You might be misspelling the term you're entering: try alternate spellings. For instance, vagina⁠ (vagina: The internal passage leading from the opening of the vulva to the cervix of the uterus.) , not virginia, vigina, vagia, or orgasm⁠ (orgasm: An event typically in response to physical or intellectual sexual stimulation, controlled by the involuntary nervous system. ) not organism, orgsim or cumming.

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• Start with the search function, right here or the list of tags here. We have answered a lot of questions, and most people's situations aren't as unusual as they think. We often delete questions asked which we have answered before, so it's best to check the site first to see if your question has already been answered. Hint: there is a search box on the lower left hand corner of every page.
• Look through our existing index of advice questions here, or at our message boards, here, which you can also search via this link.
• Still nothing or just not finding what you need? Then you can ask us. For questions you want answered as soon as possible, which are time-sensitive (like pregnancy⁠ (pregnancy: The state of carrying a developing embryo or fetus within the uterus. Medically, someone is considered to be pregnant when an egg has been fertilized by sperm, cells divide, and the fertilized egg is implanted within the lining of the uterus.) scares or risks, current infections or very recent abuse⁠ (abuse: Purposeful harm or mistreatment of another person, which can be verbal, emotional, physical or sexual. An ongoing pattern or cycle of such mistreatment or harm can characterize an abusive relationship.) or assault), or to have an ongoing discussions about it is best to post a question at the message boards. The wait at the message boards for an answer is usually anywhere from less than an hour to a half day.
• If your question is NOT time-sensitive, if you want a very in-depth answer from one of our Sexpert Advice columnists, or you just don't mind waiting, then you can put a question in our Sexpert Advice quere here. It is okay, if you like, to post a question both at the boards and in the Sexpert Advice queue. The wait for an answer at Sexpert Advice can be up to several weeks, and unlike the boards, not all questions posted will be answered. If you would like to be emailed when your question is answered, you can log in to your account here, or you can post an email address in your question for us to contact you at if and when we answer your question.

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