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yougivemefever's question continued: My boyfriend was hesitant to try to please me in the first place because he's inexperienced and gets frustrated. He gets upset he can't reciprocate. I don't expect him to just know what I like. I should be comfortable enough with my body to be able to show him...

There is a lot to unpack here, but I first want to make sure we're on the same page with some basics, particularly since my sense is you don't have an answer to this because you're not asking yourself the right questions. You're saying you can't have an orgasm from sex, but want to. But you're also...

The excitement of everything early in a relationship can be one of the most amazing feelings ever. Everything is perfect! Your partner is adorable! Everything about this person is endearing! You always get along! Everything feels so easy and natural! You both have permanent goofy grins pasted on...

Before I say anything else, I want to make sure that you understand that it's okay for you to simply not feel like having sex, and to decide to not have it for the time being. You say you don't like sex, and that's absolutely valid: We don't have to like it, at any given time or ever. Now, if you DO...

Let's say I decide I want to learn to bake bread, so I decided to try and make bread every day. But what if in doing that, every day I had the oven set at the wrong temperature, was using the wrong measuring tools for my ingredients or kept using yeast which wasn't active anymore? I could keep doing...

Your boyfriend sounds awesome. And how quickly he ejaculates right now really doesn't have to present any problems if neither of you treat it like a problem. Just so you know, a lot of sex educators and therapists have big problems with the term and concept of "premature ejaculation" (PE) as it's...

Usually sexual anatomy is taught through the lens of reproduction, so it’s only about penises and vaginas, testes and uteri. Seen through the lens of of pleasure, sexual anatomy looks different.

It sounds like you've found an effective and pleasurable way for you to enjoy masturbation! There is huge variety in what people find pleasurable or comfortable. Lots of folks report that direct clitoral stimulation is too much or otherwise uncomfortable, and then there are plenty of others who...

Let's shift this question a little bit, because ultimately, what you're asking isn't just about guys. You're asking if there is one way where orgasm or ejaculation feels better or best for any given group of people. The easy answer, and the truest answer, to that is no: just like there isn't any one...

It sounds as if you’re concerned about your performance abilities, and whether your partner is going to get pleasure out of intercourse. From what I’m reading, it also sounds to me like you’re already having “actual sex”—indeed, oral sex, manual sex….it’s sex! And with sex comes the need for good...