fingering

Assuming that you're engaging in manual sex -- hands or fingers engaged with your genitals, fingering being one term for that -- to express or explore your sexual feelings or desires, fingering IS sex. Just like intercourse can be sex, just like oral sex can be sex, just like full-body massage can...

A dildo -- or any other sex toy -- is not likely to do anything to the nerve endings within your vagina. In fact, it's completely likely there isn't a single thing wrong with you, and that nothing whatsoever has happened to your vagina to result in you feeling this way. As we've explained many times...

It sounds as if you’re concerned about your performance abilities, and whether your partner is going to get pleasure out of intercourse. From what I’m reading, it also sounds to me like you’re already having “actual sex”—indeed, oral sex, manual sex….it’s sex! And with sex comes the need for good...

Thankfully, there is no direct connection between one's genitals and their mouth. So no, kissing (of any sort) will not lead to pregnancy. The right bits of anatomy are just not in the right location for that to occur. Similarly, there's nothing about manual sex ('fingering') that could cause...

Sperm are pretty hardy, but they're not superheroes. It is unlikely that they would survive a move from the inside of your pants unless your hand was literally dripping with pre-ejaculate. If your hands were dry, then it is pretty safe to say that there is not a pregnancy risk from the contact your...

You know, it's not often going to feel good to anyone to have someone just stick a finger into the vagina. There really aren't "tight girls" and girls who aren't tight. The tightness of your vaginal opening and vagina is mostly to do with how sexually aroused and relaxed you are, and if what someone...

First things first: when something hurts, that really is your body's way of telling you that IT wants whatever it is to STOP. So, next time? If it hurts? Press pause. Manual sex really shouldn't hurt -- nor should it just be something one gets used to: sex should feel GOOD -- and if it did hurt a...