conflict

You listen to your own feelings and sense of self. You're the expert when it comes to your own identity. While a sex is assigned to us at birth, and people may have the idea that also determines our gender, that stands in conflict with the fact that sex and gender are different words that mean...

I think the easiest way for the two of you to get out of the cycle about arguing about this is to take it off the table for right now. Here's what I hear: • I hear that he is feeling conflicted about whether or not he is ready, in many ways. However, it sounds like most of what he is saying is that...

Masturbation is natural and in no way unhealthy for people of any gender if and when it is what someone wants for themselves. It's also not something that's just okay or healthy for guys, or more healthy or okay for men than for women. It's something that the majority of most people do and report...

Well, not all men do freeze up when asked (and not all men watch porn, either). For that matter, some women also watch pornographic movies, and they don't all become mute when you ask them about it, either. As someone who has written on these issues a lot over the last ten years, and asks others...

What's a "boyfriend" or what's a "girlfriend?" It all depends on what you and yours decide it's going to mean and what works best for you.

As we've said again and again and again, the majority of people with vaginas do NOT reach orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone -- and never have -- and many do not find vaginal intercourse to even be all that arousing or satisfying. There's nothing to "fix" when it comes to that -- our anatomy, on...

If you've already spoken to her about your concerns and directed her to some resources for more information, there's really not a lot more you can do when it comes to your friend. I would, however, suggest that you check into the age of consent in your state, since very few states have an age of...

Let's do what we can to work this out, okay? I know it's tough -- especially if you're also dealing with trauma in your family -- and it's scary, but it really is workable. I don't know what you mean when you say you're always careful, but there are currently -- sparing men or women who get...