breakup

Many people who identify as heterosexual have had some kind of sexual or affectional feelings or interactions with someone of the same gender, especially in childhood or adolescence. When Alfred Kinsey's data was published in the late 1940's in Sexual Behavior in the Human Male, a cultural ruckus...

It’s understandable that you’re feeling pretty overwhelmed and confused about this new information you’ve received about your boyfriend’s history and experiences. Learning of multiple sexual assaults in someone’s history is no small thing and can certainly change your outlook on your relationship...

I will start by saying that, as confusing as this situation may seem right now, you have a really good head on your shoulders: You know who you are and what you're interested in, and seem OK with it. That right there is fantastic, because it's something that many people of all ages continue to...

Lisa, I can't implore you enough not to take this personally and not to think about this as you being inadequate. You're not inadequate: you two just wanted different things. Our needs and wants and someone else's needs and wants are just not always going to mesh, even when one or both of us really...

(CMH's question continued) He likes petite girls, as do most guys. I am tall (for a woman) and big. I weigh over 200 pounds, though I carry it well. I do not have a pretty face, though I would not call it ugly. It is also not particularly interesting. He told me that even though I have a good...

(Elizabeth's question continued) I tried to show him porn and he literally left the room. I know he isn't gay because whatever hatred he has for the female body is only a fraction of how turned off he is by the male body. He says that he sees sexual things as a chore and would rather masturbate...

A partner addressing your worries or nervousness about any kind of sex by telling you you need to "grow up," needs to grow up WAY more than you do. In a word, if that's how he responds to this, I'm less worried about him dumping you, and more concerned about you sticking around with the likes of him...

(Your question, continued) We continued to talk as "friends", and I discussed the situation with his mom since he had told his parents what was going on. She explained that we needed to stop spending so much time alone and putting ourselves in such tempting situations, so my boyfriend and I talked...

Before I say anything else, let me just say that I'm so sorry you had to have this experience. Sadly, very few women who have had even the smallest measure of sexual experience will go through life without at least one person responding like this, but it's particularly painful when the person saying...