red flags

Before anything else, one very important thing for you to know is that if you're underage, making and/or sending nude or sexually explicit pictures could be a felony for both of you. In the United States, those images of legal minors are considered child pornography, and his asking you for them...

I absolutely agree with you: that is seriously not okay. I do not think you are overreacting. Not at all. I think you had a very appropriate reaction, and I'm very glad you had that reaction rather than thinking it was okay for anyone to do something like that to you. In fact, if you didn't get far...

I think there's a sounder, healthier solution than trying different sexual positions or doing more kegels. Because the problem here isn't your vagina. I don't think the problem is your partner being uneducated about vaginas, either. I'm not even he is even earnestly feeling the physical differences...

I'm not going to be able to tell you exactly what happened here, because I wasn't in your head or his, I don't know what the dynamics of this relationship are or have been like outside of this context and I don't know your sexual history, including with this person. This is one of those posts I wish...

It's absolutely normal to feel unsafe with someone who has demonstrated that you are not safe with them. After all, if I told you I didn't feel safe having someone over for dinner who mugged me last week, you'd hardly be surprised. It's also absolutely normal not to feel sexual with someone who hasn...

It’s understandable that you’re feeling pretty overwhelmed and confused about this new information you’ve received about your boyfriend’s history and experiences. Learning of multiple sexual assaults in someone’s history is no small thing and can certainly change your outlook on your relationship...

Frankly, if your first thought is to try and change your body -- rather than to change the dynamic of this relationship or get out of it -- something is horribly amiss. Your husband is clearly ignorant when it comes to bodies. A penis -- be it his or anyone else's -- doesn't have the capacity to...

Before we get into anything else, I want to debunk a few things you've said here that don't have any real basis. He wants more sex than me. Big surprise. He's a man. Men don't automatically want more sex than women. Not all men and all women, not even most men and most women. Mind, we can say that...

If he refuses to change his mind, then this isn't someone to marry, or even stay with anymore. Legally and emotionally tying yourself to someone who doesn't give you a voice both in the kind of sex you have and when you become pregnant is legally and emotionally tying yourself to a kind of sexual...