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I want to first make some short, essential statements. What I'd like you to do is read each of them, maybe more than once, and just sit with them. Try and really absorb them. Understand that when it comes to what those of us who work in these fields know about healthy relationships and healthy...

Teenagerhood should be a time of dreams and expansion. We should be allowed to open our inner selves up and absorb as much light and life as we possibly can. We should be, but other people are often too often invested in what they think we should be to let us be what we are.

Erin's question continued And I said it wasn't that I didn't want to, but that I should at least wait until I get on birth control or something. And he started begging, so I said we could do anything except for that. And then he told me nothing else would be good enough, and got really angry and...

One of the biggest facets of a healthy sex life with someone is being sure that we respect when they do NOT want to have sex, and that they do the same with us. Healthy sex has a whole lot to do with both partners only having sex when that is what each truly wants to be doing. When it comes to...

Please understand that anal sex is sex. It is no more or less sex than vaginal intercourse is, just like oral sex is sex and manual sex (fingering or handjobs) are sex: that's why all those terms end with the word "sex." So, if you do not want to have sex until marriage, then don't have sex until...

(Anonymous' question continued) I feel like there is something so strange about a person like me who is so reserved- celibate of all sexual activity, and yet, I don't really have erotic dreams, and it doesn't SEEM like I'm repressing anything. I will say that I am EXTREMELY creative and passionate...

If your boyfriend hasn't initiated anything sexually, and he gets upset when you talk about it, then it's pretty clear your boyfriend isn't feeling ready for any kind of sex yet and you need to respect that. You can certainly talk to him about this -- making clear that you have no interest in...

You know, it can be pretty stressful for guys to feel like they have to have an erection... OR ELSE. It can also be very stressful for anyone to have intercourse for the first time or with a new partner. The real pisser is that stress is one of the most common reasons a guy won't get an erection or...

There's no reason why I, or anyone else, should try to talk you into doing a sexual activity you don't have any interest in doing. Coercing someone into doing something sexual they don't want to is an abuse, and in many cases, also falls under definitions of rape, and for good reason. What motivates...

(Jasmine's question continued)I have no idea what to do. I mean it is just a little money...we've already had sex and now we understand that he want to be together for ever. He even told his parents about me, which was hard because they are as strict as hell. But I don't want to give him anything...