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What positions are there for sex? How do you do them? Which is the best one? And why does everyone seem to think positioning is so complicated when it's really not?

You did nothing wrong. The idea someone "asks for" something they don't want, something that they experience as a violation, is a trope that I wish would go the way of the dodo bird. Understand, I'm not upset with you for saying that; I'm upset with the culture that sends messages that make you...

One of the biggest messages I (and most other sex educators I know) wish everyone would receive and embrace is that when it comes to how you express yourself sexually with things like this, there is no "supposed to." All there is, and should be, is what feels true and real for you, what you find...

We've been receiving and answering a lot of questions like yours lately, but I think it's really important to keep talking about if people keep asking. Because we keep hearing girls asking questions like this about guys, it seems clear there are a lot of people who aren't getting some things we...

You know, our gut feelings are usually very trustworthy. When we find we feel very scared and nervous, it's usually because we have good reason to be. Those kinds of feelings are usually excellent cues for making our best choices. I'm not 15. I'm in my 40s. I've been engaging in sex for a very long...

I'm not concerned about you looking desperate by doing anything to try and convince your partner to have sex it seems he's made clear he's not comfortable having. What I am concerned about with any situation like this is, instead, your partner possibly not having his limits and boundaries respected...

Asexuality saved my sex life. No, seriously -- I mean that. I will declare it from the middle of a courtroom, with one hand on Our Bodies, Ourselves. Asexuality, as much as sex-positive feminism and far more than any amount of "hon, you just need to get laid already," helped me to access a confident, positive, and excited relationship with my sexual self.

I don't think a relationship can be ruined by a person not having the kind of sexual responses, sexual feelings, desires or sexuality a partner wants. Unless. Let's say people in a relationship with those things going on won't accept that that person, try as they might (or not, if they don't want to...

Let's talk about what's real when it comes to the size and shape of the labia and mons first, then address harassment. There's nothing ridiculous about asking this, and nothing ridiculous about looking for comfort and reassurance after you've been sexually harassed. Harassment tends to leave us...

We get a lot of questions from users who wonder whether there is a certain way they should act or feel or look, if the way they are doing things is weird or normal, or if there is something wrong with them or how they feel or act or look. I'd say that that topic is in the top three of our most...